Monday, June 15, 2015

When Counseling is Effective

Kopp Disclosure
(John 3:19-21)



Scratching the Surface


When Counseling is Effective

I’ve often wished I had more time.

Ultimately, I’m with Quoist’s prayer: “You know what You are doing.  You make no mistakes in your distribution of time.  You give each one time to do what You want him to do.  But we must not lose time…waste time…kill time…for time is a gift that you give us, but a perishable gift, a gift that does not keep…I am not asking You, Lord, for time to do this and then that, but Your grace to do conscientiously, in the time that You give me, what You want me to do.”

Truly, there are more needs than time to fill ‘em.

I average about 70 hours a week as an undershepherd.

That’s more of a frustration than complaint; for I knew what I was getting into from the start with the help of my first mentor The Rev. Harold F. Mante.  I’ve always known the hours would be long; and our Lord has always provided the strength for me to meet His assigned tasks.

Yet, I’ve often wished I had more time; for there are more needs than time to fill ‘em.

As the demands on my time keep increasing, I’ve had to become very careful with my calendar.

Yeah, I wish I could just put a jug of lemonade on my desk and declare, “Ya’ll drop in anytime…’cause I ain’t got much to do.”

Wish that were true.


But it’s not; and I have had to become a better steward of the time entrusted to me.

Actually, that has made me into a much better counselor; because I now turn immediate attention to the only One who can save here and now as well as in the end.

I think of a woman who called not too long ago.

She: “Do you remember me?  You counseled my husband and me about nine years ago.  We’re in trouble again.  Can you help us?”

Me: “Where are you worshipping?”

She: “We’re…not…right now…but…”

Me: “The best way to begin getting your life and marriage and everything…well…begins with worship.  So come to our first or second service on Sunday and then I’ll meet with you and begin…”
It’s a John 14:6 and Acts 3:1-10 reality about effective counseling.

Some things are sooooooo obvious.

I was playing golf with my favorite Special Olympian.

Me: “I stink at putting.”

Billy: “Maybe you should practice.”

It brings too many to mind: “I don’t know who I am or what I’m doing or where I’m going.  My marriage, family, school, church, job, and world stink.  My life is a mess.”

Jesus: “Abide in Me.  As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me.  I am the vine.  You are the branches.  Whoever abides in Me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit.  Apart from Me, you can do nothing.”

Some things are sooooooo obvious.

There are more needs than time to fill ‘em.

Annnnnnnd maybe that’s not as bad as it sounds; for counseling only becomes effective when Jesus is the prescription.

Band-aids are helpful.

They stop the bleeding.

Jesus saves.



Blessings and Love!



Anonymous said...

So are the churches prepared to support the wounded? Can they truly talk about exactly how "Jesus saves" while demonstrating His love? It seems to me, that as church members, we need to be willing to do the hard work of listening carefully and then talking through this very question so that people who walk in the door get "it." Otherwise, it's just more words.

Kristine said...

Dr. Bob. Your words are precious!!!! Medicine to my soul so often…

God bless you in ALL that you do so often that is helpful without restraint and empowers without requiring back in return.

To God be the glory for your ministry to me and all,

“God, let Your Kingdom come and Your will be done, on earth right now as it is in heaven!”

Dr. Robert R. Kopp said...


True, mon ami.

Obviously, you've been reading James...along with the red letters.


Dr. Robert R. Kopp said...

One more word.

Obviously, you have captured the walk the talk expectations of our confession concomitant to confirming it; kinda like the Pope is doing with his latest epistle/encyclical.

I urge you, in the spirit of John 3;19-21, to remember we also look up, stand up, speak up, and act up for Jesus...not behind closed doors of anonymity.

Have the courage of your conviction, friend!